The Dangerous Undertow
One of job hunting's well-kept secrets is the “undertow.” While it may go by other names, the undertow is potentially one of the most dangerous dynamics you may face during the sometimes long, arduous process of finding your dream teletherapy job. What is the undertow? Keep reading.
The Undertow can be triggered when the employer or headhunter calls you with the good news, “We want you!” The excitement this triggers has the capacity to suck in many an anxious job-seeker and whirl them around causing them to lose their bearings. Why? Because it is so intoxicating to be liked and appreciated.
If you are employed, you may feel that your company takes you for granted, but this new employer is paying attention and complimenting you! As we all know, praise goes to the head very quickly. This is the undertow. Your human need for acknowledgment and approval is being massaged, and you can be sure that no one ever likes you as much as the manager about to make you an offer.
That is why the undertow is so dangerous. It can undermine every last fiber of common sense within you. It’s why so many people take teletherapy jobs that don’t match their talent or credentials. It’s so easy to miss the red flags staring you in the face once you are swirling inside the undertow. Your clarity and reason become replaced with the fleeting pleasures of the ego.
Perhaps you need to become a bit more aware of those red flags so that you don’t get sucked in. Below are two of the more common ones Do either of these experiences ring a bell?
1 - Does the company clearly understand why they are hiring you for the teletherapy job?
Did you ever leave the first interview excited, thinking, “This is so cool, the CEO is a visionary”? Then, after the second interview, you thought, “This is confusing, the Clinical Director sees this position entirely differently than the CEO. They don’t even have this clear between themselves. What do they expect me to do?”
Realize that when there is no internal consensus regarding the teletherapy position for which you are being considered, (not to mention where the company is heading), your best move may be to bail out before you get entangled in a mess of which it's hard to extricate yourself.
2 - How heavy are they emphasizing the vetting?
Selecting a new employee consists of two equally important parts. While vetting a new prospect is critical and ostensibly the primary component of the interview, the candidate needs to be sold on the job opportunity as well. If it isn’t worth the time and energy to sell the prospect of the company, why is he/she worthy of consideration in the first place?
If the interview is so imbalanced towards vetting you to the exclusion of selling you on the company, then it is unlikely that even if you land the job that you will enjoy it. You want to work for a boss that clearly understands that without talented, thinking employees the company has nothing.
How to Escape the Undertow
Once you are in hot pursuit of that teletherapy job, it is highly unlikely that your radar won’t become impaired. It would be wise to enlist a coach, or if not, a friend who is willing to be brutally honest with you. Share the interview conversation along with all of its details. Only in this way can that other set of ears recognize if there is truly something amiss.
Whereas you may think you want to work for the company that has you convinced that you are appreciated, you need to fact check the experience. If you don’t, it's only a matter of time before you come to the painful conclusion that while your ego may need that massage, your long-term happiness in the teletherapy job is contingent upon something far more substantial!
Online Therapy Job Search Stalled?
Sometimes you are just stuck. The search for that online therapy job just isn’t going according to plan and you need help. Where should you turn? Perhaps it’s time to consider hiring a career coach. They offer a variety of services, including writing resumes and cover letters, targeting job searches, and finding ways to develop careers.
But an excellent coach can often offer you much more. The coach’s real value may be in helping you regain your balance in life, show you how to unravel unhelpful patterns, or offer a new way of thinking about yourself and your work. How do you know if you need a career coach? Read on to find the three most visible signs.
1 - Objectivity
Do you find that when you are considering a new job, you seem to be the target for everyone’s opinion? The problem is that their opinion is nothing more than theirs. Often they are merely projecting their experience. “Financial security is paramount,” asserts the one for whom this is the concern, while the risk taker will encourage you to do just the opposite. Whom can you trust?
A career coach is an objective voice that can help you think methodically through the options, and guide you to make a calculated decision without the baggage of friends or family. A career coach offers a fresh perspective regarding the implications of your decisions and the challenges it will bring.
Sometimes the online therapy job search is very confusing. Your career path is unclear, or even if it is evident, you don’t know to proceed, or perhaps you don’t know your options. What do you do? Enter a career coach whose expertise is solving all of the above. From helping you to understand your skills, your strengths, or your best employment options, a career coach can be the game changer!
2 - Strategy
Maybe you know where you’re going, but you aren’t getting there. You need a particular strategy that a career coach could help you craft. Sometimes those seeking a new online therapy job fall into the rut of becoming reactive instead of being proactive. This may be a sign that you are ready for a more strategic approach.
Also, there are several aspects of the online therapy job search such as enhancing the resume, interviewing, or even where to be looking that require deeper analysis and insight to be maximized. The coach’s experience with the many helpful tools for job seekers can be invaluable.
Many career coaches have refined the art of networking. This critical component of the online therapy job search needs to be exploited to its fullest. Not only can a career coach teach you this skill, but can also help you to make strategic connections, and show you how to begin those conversations that will bring you to the job for which you pine.
Sometimes what you need is to get the engine running again. Unfortunately, the frustration, stress, and anxiety can lead to paralysis. All of the sudden you find yourself doing...nothing! A career coach can show you the way back to life. You may require a paradigm shift that requires the assistance of with knowledge and experience.
A skillful career coach has that combination of resources and tools to elicit your talents, abilities and passions, so necessary in assisting you in working through the process of discovering the employment options that will truly satisfy you. Why presume that you need to find a new job by yourself when you can solicit the assistance of someone who can really help?
3 - Hope
Maintaining hope for a better future is a staple in the online therapy job search. However, it can be elusive when that search drags on and on. You must take great care not to lose that hope as it may become a slippery slope into unexpected trouble- stress, anxiety, depression and all of their undesirable side-effects.
Don’t underestimate the importance of enlisting a career coach. Its benefit may go beyond landing the job. For some, it can be a life-saver, lifting you out of the seemingly bottomless pit of “hopelessness.” Be sure to find a career coach who is uplifting and encouraging, someone who will offer knowledge, skill, experience and the loving guidance that you need and deserve.
Negative emotions are an unfortunate byproduct of your teletherapy job search that often goes unnoticed. Many are held hostage on an emotional roller coaster throughout their job hunt. Before you can engage those emotions, you need to identify them. It is only then that you can reduce the suffering they cause and mitigate the destructive impact they have on the process.
You might be lost in the course of looking for a teletherapy job. At which websites and job boards should you be looking? How do you network? What can be done to enhance your resume? For what positions are you even qualified? Then, when you finally land the interview, how do you prepare to make it a smashing success?
Relax, being overwhelmed is par for the course. The key is to engage this emotion as if it were the job itself. You must remain focused, organized, and disciplined. After you perfect your resume, adopt a daily routine consisting of reading and following up on the job alerts sent to your email, expanding your network, and investigating new companies in your field. Transform the time and energy you have invested in being overwhelmed into consistent, constructive action.
Don’t think that just because you don’t see them looking at you that you aren’t visible to them–even when you don’t hear anything. One recruiter said that her business was juggling nearly 150 prospects simultaneously. You can’t expect to have your email responded to promptly with this kind of overload.
There are any number of reasons why you don't hear a response. Maybe the recruiter is following up on referrals or speaking with other candidates. For all you know, the company may be in the middle of merging two positions together. Whatever it is, your “invisibility” probably has nothing to do with you. The recruiter who thinks you are right for the job will find you.
Rejection hurts! You thought you landed the job, and then silence. Most of us are rejected at some point or another in our job search. Even so, it feels lousy when you check your email, and there it is, another rejection. Realize that this particular rejection doesn’t preclude other options, perhaps even better ones. Each rejection brings you one step closer to the right job for you.
But when this happens too often, you begin to wonder. Why is no one contacting you? Maybe you aren’t qualified. These and other doubts start gnawing at you and if left unchecked can put you at risk of losing confidence or suffering from feelings of fear and anxiety.
It has been shown that experiencing fear and anxiety constricts the brain, compromising optimism and creativity. Worrying partners with the imagination spinning images of pessimism and a future that is helpless and hopeless.
How then do you engage worry, fear, and anxiety amidst the throes of a long and frustrating search for a teletherapy job? The answer is: “Get creative!” When you access positive imagination, you are energizing your entire being while at the same time preventing the fantasies filled with fear from becoming entrenched inside of you.
You need to fit into your daily routine the time for activities that reflect your imagination and creativity. Write, play the guitar, draw, or whatever else stimulates your creative juices. Accessing your creativity and giving free reign to your imagination has tremendous power to heal. It may not land you the teletherapy job, but it could transform the search itself.
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